Cynical or Successful?

Right now, you are becoming either cynical or successful. One thing will determine which you will become. Over my decades as a leader, I’ve seen influencers whose hearts have grown cold or were set on fire. When I noticed what made the difference in these leaders, I made a commitment to follow the example of those whose hearts were on fire. Here’s how to do it…

We’ve all been around cynical people and influencers. They are no fun. They are a downer at parties and in conversations. But what makes them like this? As an influencer yourself, you will need to understand what makes people become this way.

And here is how they became cynical…THEY DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THEIR HURT.

You will become hurt in ministry leadership and in life in general. Many times this hurt will catch you off guard. Someone will say or do something or NOT say or do something that will hurt you. I’ve found that many times in my own life, the people who have hurt me had no idea or intention to do so. And let me be clear, I’ve done my share of hurting others too.

But, I have also had many experiences of people intentionally trying to hurt me. Make no mistake, there are some mean people out there. There are some people out there who don’t like me and talk bad about me. People may consider me their enemy, but the feeling is not mutual. I remain steadfast in my position: I have no enemies.

I could tell you some of my own horror stories. I’ve been cheated, stolen from, lied to and about, betrayed, and on and on. And if you’ve been leading for any amount of time, you have your own horror stories too. Some are worse than others. My point is we all will become hurt in life and leadership.

Do you know what the #1 reason is people leave ministry leadership in my experience? They get hurt, and they don’t know how to handle it. They allow it to derail them from leading and influencing. This is tragic because I’ve seen great leaders fall away from being an influencer because they didn’t know how to respond to hurt.

If you DO NOT handle hurt the right way you will…


…become critical

…become cynical

…feel sorry for yourself

…allow your heart to grow cold

If you DO handle hurt the right way you will…

…go on

…become tougher

…become tenacious

…show grace and mercy

…allow your heart to grow stronger

In my next post, I’ll share the 3 ways you can handle hurt.

Keeping leading!

Jeff Eckart, CEO
Never The Same


What are we Celebrating?

I REALLY just have to say to the CHURCH: this is anyone who claims to be a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, received him as savior and has been baptized.
>We should not celebrate a chosen lifestyle of sin. We also should not condemn those who live lifestyles of sin because we all were there before Jesus. I’m not saying that we don’t acknowledge struggle, rather I’m saying we don’t celebrate the choice of giving in to that struggle.
>The moment you’re saved, you no longer get to just do whatever you want to do. Not because of rules or religion, but because of relationship to God and because of protection from yourself. Because we are the children of God called and chosen by him, because we represent Christ, we don’t celebrate sin.
>The world celebrates sin and I must say, they can do that. How do they know any better? My cry is for those of us who know better to never waiver from the truth of God’s word. Sometimes it’s hard to be the light, but we must.
This isn’t my opinion, it’s the word of God.
1 John 2:15-17
“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”
-Amonte King